"Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual; you have an obligation to be one."
- Eleanor Roosevelt
This is me
From a very young age, I always felt very small. I was and have always been a sensitive and intuitive soul. I care deeply about others and struggled with the pain of always wanting to please people.
When I think back over my adolescence and the years that followed all the way into the beginning of my career, what comes to mind is fear. Fear of being disliked. Fear of looking stupid. Fear of failure. Fear of confrontation.
This constant internal nagging to try and make others happy tied to the personal experiences I encountered throughout my life, led me to develop this notion that I was just not good enough. From being bullied starting at the age of 5 all the way through my professional career, being made to feel small or inadequate by ego-driven managers, I let my life circumstances shape the perception I had of myself. I was not smart enough, thin enough, funny enough, or interesting enough. I lost sight of my true values, passions, and needs.
A few years after graduating from college, when I was working at a Public Relations agency in New Jersey, every moment began to feel like the movie Ground Hog's Day. I was desperate for a change. It was around this time that I began my journey to self-awareness and personal development.
I slowly started to uncover that I was the true definition of a self-made victim and my people-pleasing was a direct result of my low self-esteem.
What happened to that confident, ambitious, creative, talented, beautiful, kind, compassionate, sensitive, loving person? Well, she was still there. She was just buried under a layer of self-pity.
The truth is, it was hard to admit that I felt so low but it makes sense that one would question their self-worth when they were living life with no boundaries and putting the needs of others before their own.
I didn’t know then what I know now, which is that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. You can learn and grow from your experiences, or you can become a victim of your circumstances.
I did not want to be a victim anymore and I slowly started to uncover how to step into my power and start courageously asking for what I wanted.
It became my mission to help those who suffer from people-pleasing and self-criticism to remove the layers of fear and doubt so they could start living with passion, purpose, and excitement. I have dedicated my life to helping people find and understand their power.
I support people in setting healthy boundaries and finding the courage to prioritize their own values, needs, and desires.
Each of us is greater and wiser than we appear to be, and every single moment is an opportunity to decide whom you want to be and what kind of life you want to live. The choice is yours.
You matter. It’s time to be unapologetically you, to let your light shine, and to start loving yourself and your life.
With a proven coaching process,
I empower people pleasers
to step into their worth
create their ultimate life.
International Coaching Federation, Associate Certified Coach
Certified Professional Coach
Master Practitioner, Energy Leadership™ Index
Coach at BetterUp