Updated: Sep 23, 2020
What does success mean to you? That is the first question you should be asking yourself.
Success means something different to everyone. Does success mean landing your dream job? Would you consider yourself successful if you had a healthy relationship with your partner? How about achieving that goal of purchasing your dream car?
The first step to working toward success is gaining clarity on how you define success and understanding what might be holding you back from achieving that.
We all have that little voice inside our head that likes to tell us what we can and cannot do. Mine likes to creep up from time to time and tell me, “Hey! You’re not smart enough to do that. You couldn’t possibly get organized enough to finish that project.” It’s annoying. So how do I deal with that? Well, every time that little voice pops up, I replace that thought with something positive. Instead of telling myself I am not good enough, I tell myself, “You are wise. You are motivated and you have something to offer everyone!” It was important for me to recognize that I had these limiting beliefs about myself.
Listen, we all get in our own heads and the truth is, those voices will probably never fully go away. However, research suggests that self-doubt and fear can be overcome with focus, careful practice, and awareness of one’s thoughts.
As I have said time and time again and as I live my life by this rule, energy attracts like energy. Focus on the positive and you will stop worrying about the negative.
Set a Goal
Now that you are aware of some of those little voices and have tuned them out. Dream big! There are no rules. Get out that pen and paper and start writing.
Where do you want to live? California, on the beach? Amazing. Are you looking for a partner in life to go adventuring with? Fantastic! Are you excited about a new career you want to take hold of? Go for it! Be creative and do not hold back.
For this exercise, really envision what your life will look like one year from now. Imagine you are living it.
It is important to keep you goals reasonable and achievable. For example, if your goal is to sell your 1987 Ford truck that doesn’t run for $10,000 – that’ probably not going to happen. However, if you want to move across the country and start a new career, that is achievable!
How excited are you right now? The world is full of so many incredible possibilities. Look at your list and pick one goal that you want to start working toward. It is important to focus on one thing at a time. Many times, we get so excited about reaching a goal that we put 10 steps into place to reaching it and expect to check them all off in one week. We get so overwhelmed before we begin that we do not even try.
Once you have selected your goal, think of one thing you could do this week to work toward it. For example, if your goal is to go to the gym 6 days a week at 6 AM, you could start this week by going twice. Each week you work toward another day until you have developed a new habit.
If your goal is to find a new job, what could be one thing you can do this week to start your search?
Perhaps it is to update your resume.
Instead of focusing on updating your resume, changing your LinkedIn profile, and creating a professional website on top of applying for 20 jobs, start with just one thing.
Get that resume up to date. Check!
As you start to complete these small goals, you will gain confidence and momentum around the overall picture. Your enthusiasm will help you continue to move forward.
What goals are you working toward in your life right now? How can you use these three tips to gain control and live an extraordinary life?!